How much does an au pair cost in France and Germany?
Hosting an au pair is one of the most affordable childcare options for a family — but the budget doesn't stop at pocket money. Here's an honest overview of all the costs, so the year starts without misunderstandings. The amounts below are indicative: always check the current official rules in your country.
Pocket money: the main item
In France, an au pair's pocket money is typically between €280 and €320 per month, for around 25 hours of help per week. In Germany, the minimum is €280 per month, for a maximum of 30 hours per week including babysitting.
It's not a salary: the au pair is welcomed as a family member, with room and board. Pocket money recognises their daily help — and a fair amount, paid on a fixed date, is the foundation of a relaxed relationship.
Room and meals: the invisible cost
The au pair needs a decent private room and shares the family's meals. Count the real extra cost: food (€150 to €250 per month depending on the region), heating, electricity, and possibly furnishing the room initially.
This item is often underestimated — but it's also what makes the model unique: your au pair lives with you, not at your place.
Side costs to anticipate
Some items vary by country and situation, but should be in your budget from day one:
- Health insurance: in Germany, paid by the host family (around €35 to €60 per month); in France, coverage runs through URSSAF social contributions
- Social contributions (France): the family registers the au pair with URSSAF — expect roughly €150 to €200 per month depending on current rates
- Language course: in Germany, a €70 monthly contribution; in France, enrolment in French classes is a condition of the status
- Transport: the local travel pass is often covered by the family
- Travel to and from your country: depending on what you agree with your au pair
The real total monthly budget
All included, a family should plan between €600 and €900 per month depending on the country and region — significantly less than traditional in-home childcare, with flexible help and a genuine cultural exchange.
Compared to a part-time nanny (often €1,200+ per month in urban areas), hosting an au pair remains very attractive — as long as you respect the framework: an au pair is neither a housekeeper nor a full-time childcare solution.
Budget mistakes that ruin a year
Nearly all family–au pair conflicts come from unclear financial expectations. Three simple rules prevent them:
- Put everything in writing before arrival: amount, payment date, hours, extras
- Never "compensate" extra hours with benefits in kind that weren't discussed
- Review the budget together after the first month — the right moment to adjust